Marriage God's Way
Tired of waiting, or struggling after "I do"? Here is marriage God's way, in plain words.
My wife Ngozi and I have been married thirty-five years. Over those years I have sat at many kitchen tables with men and women at every stage. Some were single and tired of waiting. Some were engaged and nervous. Some were married and struggling. Some were sixty-five and in love for the second time. This book is what I would want to tell each of them, written down in one place. Turn to the part that fits your life today.
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The Book
One book. Nine chapters. Every stage, from waiting to growing old together.
It walks with you before the wedding, through the first years, and into later life: waiting well, choosing by fruit, counting the cost, marrying after 50, fighting fair and healing after hurt. It is a pastor's plain guide, not therapy, and not legal, financial or counseling advice. Where there is abuse, it says plainly: your safety comes first.
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The complete Bible-based marriage guide for singles, couples and those marrying later in life.
A fruit test for recognizing a godly spouse, and the red flags that are not small. The money, family and faith talks every engaged couple should have, including sending money home and bride price. Homes, grown children, wills, prenups, Social Security and caregiving when you marry after 50. Rules for a fair fight. Ephesians 5, 1 Corinthians 7 and 1 Corinthians 13 read carefully, with the main views laid out fairly. And 31 short prayers, each with a verse.
What you get for $47$77:
- Marriage God's Way — 90-page ebook, 9 chapters in four parts, King James verses, plain words$77
- Questions for Couples Before the Wedding — Questions for Couples Before the Wedding: a printable checklist to answer apart, then together, on faith, money, family, children, home life, conflict, intimacy and marrying over 50. (9 pages)
$19FREE - Seven Mornings for Two — You are both used to waking up alone, with your own habits and your own quiet. Now there are two cups on the table.
Seven five-minute mornings to read together: one verse, a few plain words, a short prayer and one small thing to do today. (16 pages)
$19FREE - Seven Evening Prayers for a Second Chance — The house is quiet, the phone is quiet, and you wonder whether it is too late, or even right, to hope for love again.
Seven nightstand prayers for the widowed and the divorced: one verse, a few honest words and a prayer to say before sleep. (14 pages)
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- Lifetime updates — every future edition, no extra chargeFREE
- Total value$134$96
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The Worth Of It
What this book gives you. And what it lifts off your shoulders.
Most marriages are won or lost before the wedding day, in small decisions nobody talked about. This book puts those conversations on the table, while they are still easy to have.
Going in blind The weight
- Lowering the standard because you are lonelySettling
- Choosing on charm and Sunday bestBlind
- Expectations you never said out loudUnspoken
- Debts and money sent home, kept quietHidden
- Two full lives, two homes, no planTangled
- Arguments that move in and stayStuck
most of it can be talked through early
With this book beside you For good
- A full life while you waitContent
- The fruit test, over months not weeksClear-eyed
- Honest lists for men and for womenReady
- The money conversation, before the weddingOpen
- Homes, wills and grown children planned with careProtected
- Seven rules for a fair fightAt peace
Every line has a chapter in the book
Worth far more than $47, because one honest conversation before the wedding can spare a great deal of hurt after it.
What's Inside
Nine chapters, each built the same plain way.
Every chapter follows one pattern: A word to begin, What the Bible says, What it looks like at home, What this book can't tell you, and This week, one to three small things to do in the next seven days. Each one ends with a short prayer.
The 9 chapters, in four parts
Before "I Do," Counting the Cost, After "I Do," and Praying Together.
Before "I Do"
- Ch. 1Waiting Wellp. 9
- Ch. 2How to Recognise a Godly Spousep. 16
- Ch. 3What Men Need Before Marriage, and What Women Needp. 23
Counting the Cost
- Ch. 4Counting the Cost: Money, Family, Faithp. 31
- Ch. 5Marrying After 50p. 38
After "I Do"
- Ch. 6The First Two Yearsp. 49
- Ch. 7Bible Pillars for a Lasting Marriagep. 55
- Ch. 8Healing After Hurtp. 64
Praying Together
- Ch. 9Prayers for Singles and Couplesp. 74
Appendix
- —Where to Get Helpp. 86
- —Verses for Every Seasonp. 87
- —Questions for a Date Nightp. 88
- —Our Marriage Promisesp. 89
- —A Last Word From Emmanuelp. 90
At the back: Where to Get Help, Verses for Every Season, Questions for a Date Night, and a page for your own marriage promises.
A Taste Of It
The kind of page you'll find in this book.
These are real passages from the book, word for word. They are not reviews.
From the book · Choosing a spouseHe was quiet for a while. Then he said, "I don't know. I have only seen her on Sundays and on dates." That is the problem in one sentence. Many people choose a spouse based on what they see on their best days. But you do not marry someone's best day. You marry every day.
From the book · Marrying after 50When Ngozi and I were courting, her father told me something I have never forgotten. He said, "Emmanuel, anybody can be pleasant for three months. Show me who you are after one year, when you are tired, when money is short and when you disagree." That wisdom matters even more at sixty, because by sixty we are very good at presenting our best side. Time removes the costume.
From the book · Love that lastsRead verses 4 to 7 again, but put your own name in place of "charity." "Emmanuel suffereth long, and is kind. Emmanuel envieth not." I did this once, and I had to stop halfway. It is a mirror before it is a standard for anyone else.
Passages from the book itself, not reader reviews. General information, not legal, financial or counseling advice.
What Readers Say
In their own words.
From our readersReaders are just getting their copies. Read it, then tell us what helped — your words may appear here.
We only ever show real reviews from real readers, never made-up ones.
V. About the Author
Pastor Emmanuel Okafor.
I was born in Enugu, Nigeria, where builders spend a long time on the foundation and the pillars, because the rains are heavy. I have lived in the United States for thirty years now, and I still think of marriage that way.
Ngozi and I have been married thirty-five years, and we have three grown children. We have not had a perfect marriage. We have had a forgiven one. In our first year I made a money decision without asking her, and I had to unlearn what my upbringing had taught me. Every one of us brings something to unlearn.
In plain honesty: I am an AI-presented character, not a licensed counselor, lawyer or financial adviser. This book is researched from Scripture and public Christian marriage teaching, and the couples in it are composites. I will not tell you who your spouse is, or when they will come. I will open the Word with you and help you ask good questions.
Build on Christ. Count the cost. Speak honestly. Forgive often.
Pastor Emmanuel Okafor is a pen name, and the presenter in the videos is an AI-generated character. The books are researched and checked against official sources.
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Large-print ebook · 90 pages · Instant download
The complete Bible-based marriage guide for singles, couples and those marrying later in life.
A fruit test for recognizing a godly spouse, and the red flags that are not small. The money, family and faith talks every engaged couple should have, including sending money home and bride price. Homes, grown children, wills, prenups, Social Security and caregiving when you marry after 50. Rules for a fair fight. Ephesians 5, 1 Corinthians 7 and 1 Corinthians 13 read carefully, with the main views laid out fairly. And 31 short prayers, each with a verse.
What you get for $47$77:
- Marriage God's Way — 90-page ebook, 9 chapters in four parts, King James verses, plain words$77
- Questions for Couples Before the Wedding — Questions for Couples Before the Wedding: a printable checklist to answer apart, then together, on faith, money, family, children, home life, conflict, intimacy and marrying over 50. (9 pages)
$19FREE - Seven Mornings for Two — You are both used to waking up alone, with your own habits and your own quiet. Now there are two cups on the table.
Seven five-minute mornings to read together: one verse, a few plain words, a short prayer and one small thing to do today. (16 pages)
$19FREE - Seven Evening Prayers for a Second Chance — The house is quiet, the phone is quiet, and you wonder whether it is too late, or even right, to hope for love again.
Seven nightstand prayers for the widowed and the divorced: one verse, a few honest words and a prayer to say before sleep. (14 pages)
$19FREE - Large print included — bigger type, same bookFREE
- Lifetime updates — every future edition, no extra chargeFREE
- Total value$134$96
- You pay today$47$77
Your free companions are reserved — leaving this page in 15:00
+FREE+FREE+FREEIncluded today — no extra cost
You also get Questions for Couples Before the Wedding, Seven Mornings for Two and Seven Evening Prayers for a Second Chance — free $57.
Your order includes Questions for Couples Before the Wedding, printable so each of you can answer on your own first, and the large-print edition of the whole book. A disagreement found before the wedding is a gift.
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How do I get the book?
Right after checkout you can download the PDF. Read it on your phone, tablet or computer, or print the checklists and prayer pages at home. Nothing is mailed.
Is there a large-print edition?
Yes. The large-print edition of the whole book is included with your order, at no extra cost.
Who is this book for?
Singles hoping to marry, couples courting or engaged, the newly married, couples married a long time who want it stronger, those marrying after 50, and anyone hurting after betrayal, divorce or loss. A table at the front tells you where to start.
Will it tell me whether I can remarry after divorce?
No. Churches teach differently, and the book will not rule on your situation. Chapter 8 lays out the main Catholic, Orthodox, Anglican, mainline, Baptist and Pentecostal views fairly, and points you to your own pastor or priest.
What if my marriage is not safe?
Chapter 8 says it plainly: if someone is hurting you, it is not your fault, and your safety comes first. The book is not therapy. It lists the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) and the UK National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247), and it urges individual help from someone trained in abuse before couples counseling. In danger right now, call 911 (U.S.) or 999 (UK).
Is Pastor Emmanuel a real person?
No. Pastor Emmanuel Okafor is an AI-presented character. He is not a licensed counselor or an ordained minister of any real church. The book was researched and written from Scripture (King James Version), public Christian marriage teaching and public U.S. government guidance, and the couples in it are composites.
Is this legal or financial advice?
No. The money, wills, prenup and Social Security sections are general information to help you ask good questions. Rules depend on where you live, so please talk to a lawyer who handles wills and estates, and the agency that pays your benefits, before the wedding.
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